Problems in the Heart of Teens...

Nowadays....so many teenagers don't know about their own problems, and bad to say, they thought that some of the problems are the good things to do. O Allah please forgive them....

Below are the problems pointed out by the teenagers themselves during a speech by Dr. Abu Ameenah Bilal Philips. His speech is focuses on the various Haram things that us teenagers are exposed to in modern day society. He answers questions that are relevant to a modern day teenage Muslims.


1) Music
2) Girls
3) Media
4) Video Games
5) Smoking
6) Fashion
7) Body piercing
8) Lazy
9) Crime
10) Disobedience to parents
11) Dissatisfaction of ourselves
12) Gossip and etc.




In fact, all those problems are the symptoms of another big and main problems - like peer pressure, etc

What peer pressure is? Is it good or is it bad?

A group of friends or the people that you are with, they all doing something or they all want to do something and you may not want to do it because you think it is not right, but you may want to do it because everybody near to you do the things. End up by you do the things. This is called peer pressure.

But, what Islam said about peer pressure?

Islam told us not to follow anybody blindly. In other words, dont be blind followers.

Rasulullah said, "The believers or muslims should not to be IMMA'AH".

What is imma'ah...? It is arabic word and there is no exact word in english to describe this word.
We can just say imma'ah is when people are good, you are good, but when people are bad, you are bad.

From this discription, we can say that it is ok when people are good, and this is really trouble when people are bad. That's why Rasulullah taught us not to be blind followers. This is one of the signs of the weakness of the iman and also the weakness of the muslims personality. This is not good.

Besides that, after we are awaken by Allah from the grave, who will be with us is our friends.
If they are bad, wake up with a ugly face because of 'mungkar' they do, is it good to have them besides us in front of Allah? Allah might ask us about our friend that we choose. How to answer it? Nauzubillah. Think of it.

Now, we go to 'music' problem.
What you can say about music that is HARAM? Of course there is Halal music like nasyeed, zikrullah, etc. What do you think they are called Haram and Halal music?

Haram Music is the musics that are contradict with the akhlaq of the muslims. Example, the musics that contain bad languages. In islam, it is haram to say bad thing, even to hear it. Other, example, the haram music instruments like guitar or other string type instruments.
Why they are haram?

They are haram because of they are addictive and hypnotics. They have the ways to go through and sneaking into your heart (capture your heart). This was naturally experimented, when you are always listened to a music, you will remember it. If you left the song for a long time ( not listen to it anymore), you will not remember it, but if there is a little nodes of the song you hear somewhere, for the whole song you will remember it again. That's the power of the music. So, music instruments that make someone can not leave his music instrument when he start playing it is haram. Even bad, he forgot to play his role as a muslim(solat, zikrullah, etc) if he start to play it. Nauzubillah minzalik.


Therefore, for all above problems, what is the solution?

First, make a lot of dua' because it is our 'weapon' to kill all enemy within and outside us.

Second, do not leave Al-Quran, always read It because Al-Quran is the 'direction' of life. There are also some chapter from Al-Quran as our 'spiritual protection. An-Nas, Al-Falaq and Al-Ikhlas. Please read those chapter before you go to bed and also after ecah fardh solat.




Third, make a lot of zikrullah.




Fourth, have a good friends. because of what Rasulullah said, who will be your partner after your grave is your friends. So, please make sure your friend is good.

Fifth, know all your intention when to do something (your intention to Allah).

Sixth, gain as much as possible your knowledge, because knowledge can make you more confident of yourself and then have the personality of a muslim, insyaAllah.

And etc.

Wallahua'lam.......Assalamualaikum w.b.t